When Your Child Pushes Friends: Teaching Words to Use Instead
Children learn to respond differently when we teach them what to say instead, not just what not to do.
On a day your child got in trouble again for pushing a friend, is "Why did you push your friend?" the first thing out of your mouth? If you pause to look back at the situation first, your child's behavior may look a little different.
What happened right before the push?
- Did a friend suddenly come too close?
- Did a friend take the toy they were playing with?
- Were they waiting for their turn?
- Were they unable to say what they wanted to say?
Pushing is not an acceptable behavior. Still, it's worth looking at the situation that led to it and what your child meant by it.
"Don't do that" and "Say this instead" are different
While correcting the behavior, also help your child learn to use words instead of actions.
Last reviewed: 2026-10-07 This article provides general information. Your child's developmental needs and treatment plan are determined through consultation and assessment.